Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is the most well-researched and the most effective type of therapy for couples. It’s about attachment and stopping those endless cycles of conflict.

If you come in, I am sure I will recommend you read Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson who pioneered this work, so start reading it today and give me a call.

Emotionally Focused Therapy has revolutionized my practice.

In 2016, after completing a four year advanced training program for Emotionally Focused Therapy, I earned my Certification. This is a prestigious, internationally recognized designation and achieved by only 7% of my initial group. For me, it was akin to getting a second Masters.

This work has revolutionized my practice.

EFT focuses on building safe, secure attachment and stopping those endless cycles of conflict…on stopping them, yes, but even more importantly on gaining confidence about how to repair and reconnect.

You know…you start out arguing about some trivial thing and all of a sudden, you’re in a full blown fight. Later, you can’t even remember why you’re upset with each other or what started it, but you do remember feeling mad, sad, misunderstood and alone. And more.

Do you want to learn more? Or Talk?

It’s taken me 30+ years to figure this out but this is what we really fight about:

  • do I matter?
  • do you get me?
  • do you care?
  • can I turn to you?
  • do you have my back?

Therapy is a place to be safely heard, seen, accepted and understood. It is NOT a place to feel shamed or scolded or judged. Perhaps you have enough of that in your lives.

We will focus on creating a safe place to share to your longings. Being accepted is the best thing ever, especially by your partner.

“We were close at first. I miss it now but don’t know what happened or what to do to get it back.

“I can’t turn to my partner as I once could. Why not? I don’t know what to do about it. I’ve tried ignoring it, but…”

“Why do we always have the same arguments? Nothing changes!”

“AllI I can do it shut down and protect myself, but I’m so unhappy.”

Does any of this sound familiar? If so, EFT is for you.

Key Concept teaser:

The “enemy” is the cycle not the person.

Often mood, addiction and more can be at least partially traced back to an attachment injury.

Key concept teaser:

Fear blocks bids for connection and safety.
You’ll be happy to know that D. and I are doing quite well. Of course this is challenging but we are able to communicate, give each other what we need and support one another. Our sessions with you have helped us tremendously! D.S.